Wednesday, July 14, 2010
No More Christian Nice Girl
by Paul Coughlin and Jennifer D. Degler, PhD
by Bethany House Publishing
Be the Strong, Confident, and Caring Woman You Were Meant to Be
Tired of doing all you can for others while your relationships remain stuck in neutral--or headed in reverse? Paul Coughlin and psychologist Jennifer Degler show how being nice can harm you and drain the life out of your relationships. They explore the keys to fulfillment at home, work, church, and even in the bedroom. You'll discover that emulating the real Jesus is the key to transforming from a Christian Nice Girl into an authentic, powerful woman of loving faith.
"What's wrong with being nice? Paul Coughlin and Jennifer Degler make a strong case that women need to be bold and assertive rather than people pleasers who try to do too much. I recommend this book to you."
--Dr. Kevin Leman, Author of The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday
Women wear a lot of hats -- daughter, sister, wife, mom, friend, aunt, cousin, friend, co-worker, church volunteer, etc... We are constantly being asked to help or even just flat out "do". I don't know about you, but it is easy to get trapped in the trap of saying yes whether or not you can honestly handle what you are being asked to do. As girls, we were raised to be helpers. Be nice. Smile whether we felt like it or not. Unfortunately, while these things were not necessarily bad they also did not teach us the Christ like way to live our lives. God doesn't want us to make our decisions and prioritize our time just to make others happy. He wants us to make those decisions based on what is best for His will for us.
Are you stuck in a rut of being a people please instead of being a God pleaser? Do you have a lifetime of habit of being non-confrontational and letting others run over you because you think that is what nice Christian girls are supposed to do? No More Christian Nice Girl clearly shows through Jesus' example as well as Biblical women that we are to speak the truth in love in all areas of our life such as marriage, family, work, sex, and even when dealing with abusive relationships.
This book would make an amazing women's Bible study as the end of each chapter includes study questions. A great practical book!