Wednesday, January 14, 2009

WFW: Training



Two weeks ago, I woke up on Sunday morning with the most horrific migraine. It was awful and I couldn't do anything but go back to bed, turn off all the lights and just stay as quiet as possible. I slept most of the day and occasionally I would hear the bedroom door open and someone would tiptoe in to check on me. When I woke up I would always find a fresh drink on my nightstand. Late Sunday afternoon, I decided to try to get up for a while. As soon as I walked into the living room I was greeted by my three guys. Little Guy immediately offered to fix me something to eat and headed straight to the kitchen, Big Guy prepared me a comfy spot on the couch and hubs asked if I wanted the remote or the lights turned down low.

My boys have learned so many of these loving and compassionate skills because they have seen them modeled by my sweet husband. He has literally trained them by showing them on a day to day basis.

Not every wife and mom is as lucky as I am. I fully realize that. I am so blessed to be married to a man who not only loves us but truly wants to be fully involved in the training of our boys.

I believe that desire was planted in him by God. It isn't something that he grew up seeing modeled. When we were first dating, we had big discussions about marriage in general because of the type of marriage that had been modeled for him.

Hubs wants our boys to know that they are more important than his office. That they come before any promotion at work. That he is available to them when life's struggles comes along. To do the easy stuff like play catch, wrestle, go to ball games and tell stories at bedtime. He also wants to do the hard stuff like set curfews and set boundaries.

There is a quote that says : "No father's deathbed regret is that he did not spend enough time at work and too much time with his son."

My prayer is that if I follow my hubs' lead, neither of us will ever have that regret. Our boys are just too precious to us.

27 comments:

Shelby said...

Aw, Deanna, what a beautiful family you are. You and Hubs have gotten so much right with your marriage and your parenting and set such good examples for your guys. Beginning (and ending) with having what is so obviously a God-centered marriage. I didn't do as well so I hope that when my boys begin to get serious about a girl, she'll be as smart as you were, and talk about the kind of relationship she wants and how to get there!

You guys give me heart-happies all the time!

Shaffer said...

I am glad to see that some things never change. Sure do miss you guys.

Esthermay said...

Awesome photo! Beautiful work. And what a testimony of a family raising godly children. Bless you!

Dr. Wifey said...

that is a great photo! he sounds like as a wonderful a dad as you are a mom. your boys are going to make awesome hubbies and daddies one day too

dena said...

You and you family are so very blessed and a wonderful example to all. Thanks for this post.

Joyfull said...

What a blessing to read about such a wonderful family. May God continue to guide and keep you all. Thank you for sharing.

From the Doghouse said...

I need to hang around him and learn more!

Laurie Ann said...

This is precious! I'm so glad your husband is truly a man who seeks to do the will of God! Happy WFW!

K Storm said...

You know what the key to all that you said is to me? The fact that he had a very different experience growing up, but had a vision of the type of marriage God wants you to have and works to achieve that. Too many don't realize that you have to seek God's vision for marriage and consciously practice the priniciples that will make it happen. They just keep repeating the behaviors that they saw in the generation before. Oh that we would all work toward something better and teach the next generation that.

MyJourneyBack said...

Oh what a lovely photo and illustration. Your thoughtful post was a Blessing to read. You guys could be such an inspiration to many parents. Thanks for writing this post. And thanks for coming by to visit me. I loved coming over and meeting you.
Blessings,
Sherry

Deanna said...

K - I think you are right. He could have repeated the lifestyle that he grew up in, but he listened to God's whispers and made a conscious decision to do better for his family. It is one of the reasons I love him so much.

mayberry said...

You are blessed Deanna and you bless us too!

i'm black betty said...

absolutely beautiful. you are truly blessed. LOVE the picture.

Kristi said...

You are so blessed and loved. I enjoyed this post today. Blessings to you and your sweet family.

Tracy said...

Oh, AMEN! What a beautiful post! The picture and scripture you chose were powerful! Thank you for sharing with us! Nice looking boys, by the way! Blessings!

Lisa@BlessedwithGrace said...

What a wonderful tribute to your husband. I know you have written other posts about him, before. What a blessing from God. Yes, your sons are blessed to have a father who models these behaviors.

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Carrie said...

What a great picture!!!

And I agree with every single thing you said! *sigh* Why can't we live closer so we can hang out??

hip chick said...

What a beautiful post. It's so nice to hear good reports of men...father's and husbands. So often these days men are just "bashed" and I get tired of hearing it. My husband is a wonderful father as well. I know what you mean when you say you feel lucky.

crittyjoy said...

a beautiful post about a beautiful family. I so love to hear about your family it is such a blessing to see how much you love your God and your boys.

And I love the treatment you gave the photo it is so neat :)

Blessings.

Amydeanne said...

i love your scrapping, and your post.. it's so true.. i wish I would remember that sometimes!

ellen b. said...

What a sweet blessing! Good for Hubby being such a good example for the boys...

Mimi said...

Wonderful!

L2L said...

Amen, I too am blessed beyond words by a husband who is such a shining example to our boys!!!! He loves the Lord with all his heart and takes very seriously his role as a Father and Husband. Thankfully he looks to Christ as his example and not to the world!!!!

Peggy said...

Blessings Deanna...Great photo with the perfect verse! I'll be back to read more of all you wrote. Thank you for being such a blessing!

Joanne Sher said...

That is SOOOO wonderful to read. I am also blessed with a husband who loves to be involved. Perfect marriage of photo and scripture.

Nancie said...

Thank you for sharing this lovely picture and verse. Thank God for blessing you with a very wonderful family. May He continue to shower His lovingkindness upon you and family. Take care!